OK, close / similar but try this;
Both 87 and 85 connections on both relays to +12volts.
Both 87A connections to Ground.
86 on the Unlock goes to the Blue wire on your controller, and the White wire on controller to ground.
86 on the Lock goes to the Green wire on your controller, and the Black wire on the controller to ground.
30 on Unlock goes to the Red from the two wire actuator.
30 on Lock goes to Red/Black from the two wire actuator.
Its possible you might need to reverse the two 30 connections, as we don't know which way round the actuator works so if it locks when it should unlock reverse the connections!